Don’t talk for hours on the phone before your first date. Joke around. Be sassy. Make your plans or arrangements to meet and then politely end the conversation.
Don’t discuss deep issues in the beginning.
In the beginning, avoid seeing him more than 2 nights in a row. Start out seeing him or two nights a week.
Don’t pout or whimper when he doesn’t call.
Don’t disclose over your first dinner what you’re working through from childhood.
Don’t try to fix his flaws either.
Don’t accompany him when he goes out with his friends. You don’t want to be one of the “boys.”
Don’t do any slow drive-bys with your headlights turned off to see if he’s home. An no high-speed flybys either.
If he calls you and asks you to come over late at night after he’s been out with his frends, don’t happily go skipping over.
Don’t date someone who has addictions of any kind.
Never call more than once in a row.
Don’t email more than once in a row.
Don’t stop eating, sleeping, or exercising. Keep your routine.
Avoid last-minute dates because you “miss him.”
Don’t check your phone, messages and call him right back. Settle in, take a bath or shower, eat dinner, and relax. Move to your own rhythm, and then call back. He has to know you have a life…every day.
If you’re on the phone and you get another call that beeps through, don’t say “Stay right there. Don’t hang up!”
Don’t regularly travel 40 mins in traffic to see him. Look at a map and take note: it’s just as far from his house to your house. So don’t feel guilty about having him come your way.
Don’t ask for affection. Don’t coax affection out of him. Don’t give affection when he isn’t being affectionate.
Don’t be a slave to the phone. Pay attention to the big picture. Does he add to your life as a whole, and do you feel good after he’s been around?
Don’t memorize his phone number in the first week of dating.
If he’s in a bad mood, make an excuse and then go do your own thing.
Above all, make every concerted effort to stay focused on your life. That’s how you stay sassy in his eyes.