Don't give your all

  • Don’t talk for hours on the phone before your first date. Joke around. Be sassy. Make your plans or arrangements to meet and then politely end the conversation.
  • Don’t discuss deep issues in the beginning.
  • In the beginning, avoid seeing him more than 2 nights in a row. Start out seeing him or two nights a week.
  • Don’t pout or whimper when he doesn’t call.
  • Don’t disclose over your first dinner what you’re working through from childhood.
  • Don’t try to fix his flaws either.
  • Don’t accompany him when he goes out with his friends. You don’t want to be one of the “boys.”
  • Don’t do any slow drive-bys with your headlights turned off to see if he’s home. An no high-speed flybys either.
  • If he calls you and asks you to come over late at night after he’s been out with his frends, don’t happily go skipping over.
  • Don’t date someone who has addictions of any kind.
  • Never call more than once in a row.
  • Don’t email more than once in a row.
  • Don’t stop eating, sleeping, or exercising. Keep your routine.
  • Avoid last-minute dates because you “miss him.”
  • Don’t check your phone, messages and call him right back. Settle in, take a bath or shower, eat dinner, and relax. Move to your own rhythm, and then call back. He has to know you have a life…every day.
  • If you’re on the phone and you get another call that beeps through, don’t say “Stay right there. Don’t hang up!”
  • Don’t regularly travel 40 mins in traffic to see him. Look at a map and take note: it’s just as far from his house to your house. So don’t feel guilty about having him come your way.
  • Don’t ask for affection. Don’t coax affection out of him. Don’t give affection when he isn’t being affectionate.
  • Don’t be a slave to the phone. Pay attention to the big picture. Does he add to your life as a whole, and do you feel good after he’s been around?
  • Don’t memorize his phone number in the first week of dating.
  • If he’s in a bad mood, make an excuse and then go do your own thing.
  • Above all, make every concerted effort to stay focused on your life. That’s how you stay sassy in his eyes.

2 thoughts on “Don't give your all

  1. Katy says:

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