That time of year..

– There are family gatherings everyday & friend gatherings at least once a week..

– You compete with your friends on who will finish reading the Quraan first

– You see tents, big & small, infront of Mosques, houses, shopping centers.. everywhere..

– You are stuck in traffic jams no matter what time you leave the house/work/destination

– Supermarkets are crowded with people pushing flooded trollies & queues are as long as the eye can see

– TV channels competing with each other with their own set of series marathons

– Food, food & more food..

– You hear the recital of the Tarawee7 prayers ❤

– Suddenly, all the lampposts and billboards in the streets are featuring food advertisements (& this year, TV series advertisements)

– You start thinking of a menu of dish options to exchange with your friends and neighbors.. *yum*

– The days are calm & the nights are festive.

and most importantly,

You know its Remthan when you can feel it in the air..

Mabrook 3alaikom eshahar & May it be a blessed month ahead xo

10 Things Not to Say to Your Laid-Off Man

In case you hadn’t heard, the economy is in worse shape than Artie Lange. So it shouldn’t come as a total shock if your boyfriend, husband, or dude-you’re-kinda-seeing-but-don’t-know-what-to-call-him gets a pink memo.

Ease the pain by avoiding the following NSFAGWOOW (Not Safe For A Guy Who’s Out Of Work) phrases. That way you won’t make things worse for a guy who’s already had a horrible week ego-wise.

10. “Oh my god! What are we gonna do?”
For starters, let’s not freak out. Right now your guy needs support, not another fire to put out, and losing your cool is only going to make things worse.

9. “Why?”
Dude, he just got the ax — making him highlight his incompetence by explaining why is like kicking him in the head with your hooker boots.

8. “You better start looking … “
… for a new job, or a more supportive girlfriend?

7. “Great, now I’m gonna have to work twice as hard.”
Perfect. That means you’ll have half as much time to make us feel like crap.

6. “(Insert friend’s boyfriend’s name) just got a job.”
Really? His girlfriend must be so proud.

5. “Here’s what we’re gonna do … “
We already feel a crippling loss of control in our own lives. Don’t amplify that insecurity by trying to take over.

4. “Maybe I could get you a job at my father’s company.”
Thanks for the offer. Does his desk have a place for our balls and dignity?

3. “It’s no big deal.”
Your heart is in the right place — cool and collected. But this may come across as aloof and indifferent. Rather than lack of interest, offer support and compassion.

2. “A lot of people are losing their jobs.”
Yeah, but those people are all not us. Job-loss statistics (just like miracle-diet and Thighmaster statistics) are pretty meaningless until you become one of them.

1. “Maybe it’s a blessing in disguise.”
Give us a healthy day of self-loathing and moping around before you part the clouds and start looking for the rainbow. Remember, misery loves company (and cheer-up sex).

[Source: http://www.recessionwire.com/2009/07/30/love-in-the-time-of-layoff-ten-things-not-to-say-to-your-laid-off-man/ by Lemondrop]

Denial

We deny that we’re tired, we deny that we’re scared, we deny how badly we want to succeed. And most importantly, we deny that we’re in denial. We only see what we want to see and believe what we want to believe, and it works. We lie to ourselves so much that after a while the lies start to seem like the truth. We deny so much that we can’t recognize the truth right in front of our faces.

betrayal

In some ways, betrayal is inevitable. When our bodies betray us, surgery is often the key to recovery. When we betray each other, when we betray each other, the path to recovery is less clear. We do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust that was lost. And then there are some wounds, some betrayals…that are so deep, so profound that there is no way to repair what was lost. And when that happens, there’s nothing left to do but wait