Life Reminders

Many people are afraid of growing old. I’m afraid of
growing old and boring. Many people are afraid of
growing old,alone. I’m afraid of growing old, insane.
Many people are afraid of losing their looks. I’m
afraid of losing my dreams. Many people are afraid of
losing their youth. I’m afraid of losing my soul. When
you’re 15, 35 seems ancient. When you’re 35, 15 seems
juvenile. A turnaround in a split second – two decades
zoom past and before you know it, it’s only a mile to
the next millenium. Don’t’ fear age- it’s a right of
personhood. Don’t fear death- it’s God’s greatest
jest. Don’t grow old – you don’t have to.

Don’t date because you’re desperate. Don’t marry
because you’re miserable. Don’t have kids because you
think your genes are superior. Don’t separate because
you think it’s fashionable. Don’t drink because you
have troubles. Don’t gamble because you think winning
is inevitable. Don’t philander because you think
you’re irresistible. Most likely, you’re not.

Don’t associate with people you can’t trust. Don’t
cheat. Don’t lie. Don’t pretend. Don’t try to buy your
way into the kingdom of God. Don’t dictate because
you’re smarter. Don’t demand because you’re stronger.
Don’t sleep around because you think you’re old enough
and know better. Don’t hurt your kids because loving
them is harder. Don’t sell your self, your family or
your ideals. Don’t stagnate. Don’t regress. Learn a
new skill. Find a new friend. Start a new career.
Don’t live in the past. Time can’t bring anything or
anyone back. Don’t put your life on hold for possibly
Mr. Right. Don’t throw your life away on absolutely
Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking and
you can’t afford to have your eggs harvested before
the new millennium.

There’s always a mad rush to something, somewhere but
victory does not always belong to those who finish
first. Sometimes, there is no race to be won only a
price to be paid for some of life’s more hasty
decisions. You can’t always go with the throng who
could be wrong. Sometimes, you have to be alone to be
enlightened. To terminate your loneliness, reach out
to the homeless. To feed your nurturing instincts,
care for the needy. To fulfill your parenting
fantasies, get a puppy. Don’t bring another life into
this world for all the wrong reasons. To keep yourself
warm, buy a jacket. In the long-run, it will be less
complicated and less costly. To make yourself happy,
pursue your passions and be the best of what you can
be. Simplify your life. Take away the clutter. Get rid
of destructive elements – abusive friends, nasty
habits and dangerous liaisons. Don’t abandon your
responsibilities but don’t overdose on duty. Don’t
live life recklessly without thought and feeling for
your family. Be true to yourself. Don’t commit when
you’re not ready. Don’t keep others waiting
needlessly. Fall in love – it’s the greatest thing on
earth. But take care and remember, after the fall must
come the rise. Go on that trip. Don’t postpone it.
Say those words. Don’t let the moment pass. Do what
you must even at society’s scorn. Write poetry. Love
deeply. Walk barefoot. Hold hands. Dance with wild
abandon. Cry at the movies. Take care of yourself.
Don’t wait for someone to take care of you. You light
up your life. You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you – except you. It is true that
life doesn’t get easier with age. It only gets more
challenging. Don’t be afraid. Don’t lose your capacity
to love. Pursue your passions. Live your dreams. Don’t
lose faith in God.

Don’t grow old. Just grow-up…

25 Random Things

Rules: Once you’ve been tagged, you are invited to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. Publish the note. Then click on the note and “tag” up to 25 people. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, it’s because I want to know more about you. I don’t care whether you do this or not. I just randomly picked you outta my list. Do whatever. I just had fun with it 🙂

25. I’ve been in the banking industry for over 5 years now. I’d say not bad for a 25 year old!

24. I love Ferrero Rocher chocolates. They’re the simpliest gift on any occasion.

23. I’d love to own a Bugatti Veyron one day! … Hopefully soon!

22. I’m very independent.

21. I love designer brands: Louis Vutton Gucci, Seven Jeans, Rock & Republic =)

20. I hate losing friends. I’ve had friends since I was in kindergarten on my facebook! =P I also can’t stand people who are very fake and pretentious!

19. I want to move in to my own condo by next year in downtown toronto or back in Dubai after I’m done my banking & wealth management course! Or a cozy place by the beach would to too!

18. I don’t know what to do when people cry or get emotional.

17. I miss everything about dubai. It’s home to me, always will be!

16. I have zero tolerance for immaturity, stupidity & drama issues.

15. I hate being misjudged. I hate when people think they know me but they don’t have a clue of who I really am and therefore assume the worst in me.

14. I love all books by Sophie Kinsella & Cecila Ahern

13. I want to go back-packing all around Europe before I turn 30.

12. I want to learn to speak Arabic, Spanish & French more fluently then work for the U.N.

11. I can’t handle people who are very dependent on their partners. Makes me want to strangle them and show them that they are just as well worthy enough to feel complete.

10. I also can’t handle people who forget their friends when they start dating someone new. To me, it’s kind of pathetic to put all your attention on that person and forget who you are.

09. I like talking to older people because they are wiser and of the stories they tell you. I also like listening to babies laugh!

08. I like the sound of rain. But most especially, I’d have to be indoors and not out running about to go somewhere.

07. I like sitting at Starbucks with my Macbook sipping on a Caramel Macciato

06. I’m glad I came to Canada. It changed me in more ways than I can ever imagine.

05. I love my true friends more than anything. Very loyal and would do anything for them as they would for me. But once they break that trust, it’s a done deal.

04. I text a lot. I prefer texting than calling people.

03. I am very career oriented. I have so much that I want to accomplish in the future. I can’t be happy just doing so little with the mindset that I have. And I love knowing people who have future goals in life too. Not just to get married and raise a family.

02. I’d want to go and volunteer abroad

01. I still love him, more than anything in the world. Nothing or no one can ever, ever, ever change that.

Letting go of the past

I think we know that this isn’t working

He: I think we both need to compromise in order to work it out. Because it’s worth it to me.

I don’t know how much good there is, in what we had. Feels like it was such a long time ago. And i dont know how it got so bad.

I’m sure I said this is the happiest relationship I’ve ever been in. And it was. But it’s not there anymore.

Like where I am right now, is I deserve better than this. I just want to find a guy that makes me happy.

He: If that’s what you want, then that’s what you need.

He’s Just Not That Into You

Cut your losses and don’t waste your time .  Why stay in some weird dating limbo when you can move on to what will surely be better territory? Don’t want to hear it?  Fine.  Here’s the answer you’re looking for, “Hang in there, baby.  He’s not the loser everybody’s telling you he is.  If you wait and keep your mouth shut and call at exactly the right time and anticipate his moods and have no expectations about communication or your own sexual needs, you can have him!”  But please don’t be surprised if he dumps you or continues to drag you through a completely unsatisfying relationship.

He is a man made up entirely of your excuses.  And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life.

Men, for the most part, like to pursue women.  We (men) like not knowing if we can catch you.  We feel rewarded when we do.

Don’t let the “honeys” and the “babys” fool you.  His sweet nothings are exactly that.  They are much easier to say than “I’m just not that into you.”  Remember, actions speak louder than, “There’s no cell reception where I am right now.”

Calling when you say you’re going to call is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust.  If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna have a house, baby.  And it’s cold outside.

He will always be able to play the “friend” card on you.  He only  has to be responsible for the expectations of a friend, rather than the the far greater expectations of a boyfriend.  He’s got the ultimate situation: a great friend with all the benefits of a girlfriend, whom he can see or not see whenever he wants to.  He may be one of your closest friends, but I’m sorry to say … as a boyfriend, he’s just not that into you.

Beware of the word “friend”.  It can often be used by men or the women that love them to excuse the most unfriendly behavior.  Personally, when I’m picking friends, I like the ones who don’t make me cry myself to sleep.

I don’t want to be “sort of dating” someone.  I don’t want to be “kinda hanging out” with someone.  I don’t want to spend a lot of energy suppressing my feelings so I appear uninvolved.  I want to be involved.  I want to be sleeping with someone I know I’ll see again because they’ve already demonstarted to me that they’re trustworthy and honorable — and into me.

You can’t blame a guy for having feelings.  You love someone, you break up, you still have feeling.  Thank God for that really.  But having feelings don’t mean you have to have sex.

Every man you have ever dated who has said he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has “issues” with marriage, will … rest assured … someday be married.  It just will never be with you.

Everyone wants to be loved and needed, particularly by the person who just broke up with us.  I understand.  What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn’t want you in his life anymore … his sad, wistful, “I miss you so much” voice on the other end of the phone?  It’s validating.  It’s exciting.  It’s irresistible.  But resist you must.

My friends all say I should stop talking to him, but I think he misses me, and I like that.  I miss him.  I feel if I stay in touch with him, it will remind him of how great I am, and eventually he will realize that we should be together again.

A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves.  If he’s not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he’s showing up at your new residence to do it in person … if he’s not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he’s just not that into you.  Stop taking his calls and let him know what it’s like to live without you.

Don’t be flattered that he misses you.  He  should miss you.  You’re deeply missable.  However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you.  Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.

I was seeing a guy for about a month.  He broke up with me, saying that he didn’t feel like it could be something serious.  I understood and took it well.  He wanted to know if we could still hang out as friends.  I said sure.  Now we get together and go out and then come back to his place and have sex, just like we did before.  (But now, we’re “broken up.”)  He’s really, really cute and I love having sex with him.  I also think he must like me if he can’t stop being around me.  And I think it’s kinda cool — all pressure’s off and we’re having a great time together.  I’ve decided that I think it’s fine and I’m not going to call his attention for the fact that we’re actually dating.  Except for the fact that we broke up.

This guy is brilliant. He goes out with you, dates you, breaks up with you, then continues to sleep with you, which basically absolves him of all responsibility toward your feelings.  After all, you’re not going out anymore.  It’s genius!  It’s diabolical!  He should be writing a book!  In fact, I bet this guy could get his own little cult going if he wanted to.  And let me guess, you’d be happy to sign up for that as well.  For the record, this guy doesn’t “like you so much that he can’t stop being around you.”  Because here’s what guys don’t do if they can’t live without you: they don’t break up with you.  This guy is seriously not into you, it’s crazy.  The only way you’re going to figure out how into you you are … is how fast you get rid of him.

It’s very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less — even a vague pathetic facsimile of less — than you would have ever imagined.  Remember always what you set out to get and please don’t settle for less.  These guys exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to.

Hey girl.  Put down the penis, put your clothes back on, and go directly to your best friend’s house.  Do not find an excuse to stay.  Do not think that because of all the crazy hotness of it all, it now means that you’re meant to be together.  Yes, break up sex does seem like a good idea, because hey, it’s nice to have sex with someone you have these dramatic feelings about.  It makes it all, well, dramatic.  But now you know.  It confuses everything and makes you separate sex and emotions.  So now you don’t ever have to make that mistake again.  Got it?  He’s into the very-bad-idea-that-masquerades-as-a-good-idea, breakup sex.  Over and out.

Don’t underestimate the power of sex, even with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time.  Especially with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time.  Breaking up means not seeing them again, which also implies not seeing them naked again.  It might be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it’s still called breakup sex.  No one has yet to rename it oh-my-god-the-sex-was-so-good-we-got-back-together-again-and-lived-happily-ever-after sex.

He’s sniffing for something better, and when he doesn’t find it, he gets lonely and comes “home.”  It’s not that he’s so into you.  It’s that he’s so not into being alone.  Don’t give him the chance to break up with you for the fourth time.  (Even the idea of it sounds beneath you, doesn’t it?)  Reset your breakup maximum to one and move on.

Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision.  Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company.

Don’t confuse being classy with being a doormat.  Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with all dignity.  Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal.

Breakups, I’ve heard, are supposed to be just that.  Breaks.  Hard, clean breaks.  No talking, no seeing, no touching … keep your hands to yourself.  The relationship is over.  Half the people I know move after a huge breakup, and frankly that makes perfect sense to me.  You’re not supposed to sleep with the guy who just broke your heart a week ago.  Fine.  Next time I’m in this situation I’ll cry.  Stay in bed and wail.  Go to the gym if I can.  Call all my friends and burden them with my misery.  Sleep too much.  Cry some more.  See my therapist more often.  Get a puppy.  Do whatever I have to so eventually I can move on.

Breakup sex still means you’re broken up.

Cut him off.  Let him miss you.

He doesn’t need to be reminded that you’re great.

There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that  you didn’t get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed.  The part part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing.

Don’t give him the chance to reject you again.

No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.

Being lonely … being alone … for many people … sucks.  I get it, I get it, I get it.  But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are is worse.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.

You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time.